How Pathological Lying (Pseudologia Fantastica) Ruins Relationships

. With pathological lying, there is usually an underlying personality disorder. Yes, people lie, and I lie too...gasp. But telling lies every once in a while and being a liar are two different things. Pseudologia fantastica, another name for this type of lying, can actually be a serious mental issue, in fact, most of the time, it’s a personality disorder. It can destroy relationships and friendships. It can estrange people, completely keeping them from each other. You might think a liar couldn’t hurt you as long as you recognize the lies, but trust me, pathological liars can get under your skin fast. It could take a long time to realize that someone is lying to you in some cases, while in others, it could become obvious soon enough.

They have an amazing ability to wear a mask resembling honesty, and this is how it pulls you into a relationship, either intimate or just as friends. Even the liar’s expressions seem genuine until you dig deeper. When someone you know lies all the time, these actions begin to make you question yourself. Are you a good person, are you really talented, or did you really make a good impression? Pathological liars will tell you about their own good deeds, and many of them are not even real.

They will talk about how many friends they have, when, in actuality, anyone who truly knows them, knows they lie. Regardless, when you’re around them, you will always question the positive things about yourself. Trust is one of the most important aspects of any relationship or family dynamic. Honestly, telling a lie in certain circumstances may not be the end of the world, but pathologically lying can change things in ways that cannot be fixed.

The pathological lie can break the trust between two or more people in a relationship. Once a lie is found out, anger and frustration begin. If trust isn’t instantly broken by this initial deception, it will soon be if lies continue. With pathological lying, the broken trust will happen quickly. This liar will lie so much that they will begin to create more and more fantasies as they go. What started as a single lie about a situation will become embellished as time goes on.

These lies will be so obvious that the one being lied to will understand they cannot trust a single word the liar says. A relationship built on nothing but lies cannot survive for long unless you want to live a miserable life. It will be like living with a stranger, and you never know what will come out of their mouth next. Sometimes people lie to keep from hurting others, or they lie to make someone feel better, but liars who are pathological will fib about mundane things. This means, you can ask them what they had for lunch and they will even lie about that. It’s almost as if they can lie about the sky being blue. Friendships and relationships can be utterly destroyed by the insulting behavior of this mundane lying. Although it proves this type of lying is a disease, it’s just too disrespectful to tolerate for long. It seems like they would get exhausted from making up false stories to change the easy truth. Pseudologia fantastica keeps liars from fessing up to their deceptions. Just like a child, liars of this caliber will never take responsibility for what they say, and that’s because if they do, their lies will be revealed. Deception is impossible if you take responsibility for what you’re doing. Unlike the rest of us who do take responsibility, pathological liars rather just continue down the road of fantasy and self-proclaimed innocence. In many relationships, control issues are the biggest problem. Pathological lying places the liar firmly in control of just about everything, so this creates an even larger problem. Why? Because if all they do is tell lies, then all you can do is accept that fact. If you’re in a relationship, being controlled by a liar of this caliber will eventually destroy all attraction you have for them, thus ending the relationship. Unfortunately, the end of a relationship isn’t even a wake-up call for them to change either.

They usually just move on to another person willing to accept who they pretend to be. Pseudologia Fantastica is a personality disorder. This means, without extensive help, the pathological liar will probably never change their ways. Most relationships and friendships with these people will feel like a joke. I”m sorry to be so blunt about that fact, but it’s true. This a flaw could have originated from some sort of trauma early in life, or just from the strong desire to be accepted as a child. If a child is neglected, they will do and say whatever they need to get attention. It is possible that this cry for attention grew into a severe imprint that cannot be controlled. This is the sad part. You will recognize this type of behavior over time. I once knew a woman who tricked me for a pretty long time with her lies. This is because she could look me straight in the face and lie and make the lie seem absolutely true, beyond a doubt. I paid attention to the words she said, and soon, over time, they became absurd. If you ever catch someone in one of those “mundane” lies, as I mentioned above, you will start to pick out all their other lies much easier.

They will be guarded people and they will always insist on their way and knowledge as pure truth. If something happens, they will show themselves as innocent and point blame towards others, no matter how unfounded or ridiculous it may be. When it comes to intimate relationships, catching a pathological liar may even allow you to catch a cheater. After all, liars like this are rarely faithful. Pathological lying reveals itself by the stark way in which it’s done. Other lies usually come with a hint of guilt or a reason, but this type of lie is created with no remorse. I know the first time I met someone like this, I was amazed by their brazen ability to lie. I believe this is why it was discovered to be a mental illness instead of just a personality flaw. Have you found someone who is using pseudologia fantastica? If so, you must analyze your relationship and figure out if it’s worth continuing or if it’s time to call it quits. Remember, while you are not responsible for other people’s personality disorders, you are responsible for living your best life and appreciating your own self-worth. Do your research in this area in order to stay safe from this sort of behavior. I will you all the luck in .

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