Looking To Save A Relationship? Try The 10 Laws Of Boundaries
Boundaries have a bit of a bad rap.
When we think of setting them, sometimes we imagine fences or big blockades that we need to put up between us and the ones that we love and naturally, that may seem like a bad thing. But in truth, they are absolutely necessary if we want to have a healthy mental and emotional state. Boundaries are a way of marking where one thing ends and something else begins. In the case of boundaries between people, it marks where your wants and needs end and someone else’s begin.
The physical equivalent to boundaries would be our immune system.
The immune system is designed to protect us from foreign invaders. If our immune system let down its natural barriers, all sorts of viruses, bacteria, parasites, and pathogens would take over the body. We would be sick, lose energy, and eventually die as a result. Thus our physical natural barriers are integral to a healthy body, and emotional boundaries work much in the same way. It is essential for us to keep our needs at the top of our priority list; when they aren’t, we feel stressed, unhappy, and eventually get sick. When we don’t have boundaries, we lose touch of our own wants and needs because we’re too wrapped up in everyone else’s. This can cause us to become resentful, depleted, and exhausted, and sometimes can cause us to avoid relationships altogether in an effort to protect ourselves. We also lose touch of who we are.
The soul’s main goal is evolution and growth. No plant, animal, bacteria, cell, or any other life form wants to struggle. Our soul’s aim (like every other living being’s) is to thrive, and in order to thrive, we must know what we want and what we don’t want. This gets complicated very quickly without natural boundaries. For example: How could you know if you’re in the right career when you are more preoccupied with your parents’ expectations of you, your spouse’s wants, and your children’s needs than your own wants and needs? How could you know what you want to do with your spare time if everyone else already has plans for your day? How could you ever get around to fulfilling your desires if you’re too busy fulfilling everyone else’s? Not having boundaries can cause emotional problems like depression or anxiety and is extremely exhausting. We eventually forget our dreams. We forget our needs. We come last on our list of priorities and sadly, this can last for years. Without boundaries we lose our sense of purpose and instead focus solely on fulfilling the wants and needs of everyone else. This will cause all kinds of emotional, mental, and physical stress. So, to get ourselves and our relationships back into a healthy state, we must change by adopting healthy boundaries. According to authors John Townsend and Henry Cloud, there are ten laws of boundaries: Adopting new changes to our existing relationships is challenging, no doubt, but worth it. If you want to keep your sanity and even save existing relationships, you absolutely must respect yourself.
There will be people in your life that don’t like the new changes but those that are worth keeping in your life will stick around. “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” – Gautama Buddha Do you ever feel like you’re looking everywhere for the answers? Do you feel anxious and uncertain when you think about what you’re meant to do in this world? Do you wish someone could teach you HOW to discover your soul purpose for yourself? I’ve helped over 2.5 million spiritual seekers develop their intuition and discover their soul purpose. If you’re interested in getting FREE spiritual seeker content and weekly angel readings delivered straight to your inbox, click here. Thanks for reading! .
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